DOES EVERYTHING HAVE TO BE JUSTIFIED? #5TTT
Why. Why have you made that choice? Why should you make that choice? The word why shrouds our day, every single moment.
Our brains help us to make the correct choices, those instant decisions like ‘don’t cross the road right now, there are cars coming’. It has already downloaded and rationalised the ‘why’, we don’t question it, we don’t think about it.
The world as a whole is a collection of justifications. Everyone needs a reason to do everything. But do we? Should our personal lives, our distinct choices have to be completely justified?
Does every choice we make in life have to be justified?
As always with my 5 top tips on a Tuesday, I have broken down this topic into different areas with various questions to ask yourself. Reflect on how you make your choices and have your own inner debate!
Lack of action
Are we simply frightened to take action? Does the need for a reason mean we don’t actually have to take a leap, try something new, make a different choice. Do we use justifications to stop us from even trying?
Validation of your ‘why’ by others
Right now the question of why will most likely come from someone else. Sometimes you don’t even need a why within yourself to make a choice, it just feels right. Then when you talk to someone else they ask you why, making you doubt/ justify why you made the choice in the first place. Because you want to (or don’t want to in some cases) is enough. Because you say so is enough. If you make a personal choice that only affects you then you need to let that be enough.
Stepping away from spontaneity
For me, why always stops me from being spontaneous. It makes me question every decision I make too much. I never question others or their choices, simply my own, in my head, that niggling voice that makes you go stop. Maybe next time I think ‘screw it, I will just make nachos for dinner’, I should listen to that instant gut choice – I don’t need a why.
When is your gut and head not enough?
Sometimes we need to work things out. Sometimes we need to know why. Sometimes we need to discuss this with others to prevent us from going mad. But have you worked out those areas in life where your head and gut decision is not enough? Where you need your justifications validated by others? It may be at work, it might be decisions regarding your children, but knowing where your boundaries are will help keep things clear.
Happiness in justification?
Does knowing why make you any happier in your choices? Do you need to question why you are drawn to something or someone in order to smile? Often knowing that something simply makes us happy is in itself justification. Happiness is around us, we can give it, we can receive it, we just have to be open to it. Don’t justify happiness, instead let happiness be your justification.
Use these questions to help you understand yourself a little better. Maybe sometimes you really don’t always need to know why.