March 2022

March 4, 2022

PICK YOUR BATTLES #5TTT

Hi all,

Are you tired of feeling like you have to fight all the time? Maybe your life feels like one constant battle. Maybe you feel like it’s one battle after the next after the next…

We live in stressful times – sometimes its external stress, sometimes it’s the stress we impose upon ourselves to be more, do more. Work, home, family, Instagram… fight, fight, fight. Aren’t you exhausted? I know I am.

So for this weeks 5 top tips I want to get you thinking about how we can all pick our battles in life. Battles are inevitable, but how they appear in our lives and how we react to them really is the key.

Remember, life should be easy

It may sound obvious but sometimes I think we really do forget this point. The purpose of life isn’t to be hard, full of pressures and constant battles. It should be easy, fun and happy. If you can’t make your battles disappear then try introducing a new habit/ routine into your life to do something you enjoy. Taking a walk, reading a book, a long soak in the bath.

Priorities

Figure out your priorities. What do you really want to focus on? What demands your attention and deserves your attention? What battles are worth fighting? What is worth your time, energy, drive and, sometimes a part of your soul? (Or it sure feels like it anyway!). Fighting for equal pay at work = a battle worth fighting for. Trying to get your kids to pick up their socks and allowing it to drive you insane = not worth it.

Seek clarity

Are you fighting? Is it really a battle? Are you the only one in your team that feels this way? Battles can be surrounded by so much confusion, how do we really feel? In order to work this out you need to focus on gaining clarity. Make sleep a priority so that your mind can process the information and break it down into the necessary and unnecessary. Take some time to walk or meditate. Allow yourself to slow down during the madness so that you can really take stock of what is going on. Maybe you do need to be a warrior for a while – take care of yourself so that you are in the best head space to fight.

Sometimes the right thing to do is give in

You win some, you lose some, right? Well you need to let this be your mantra. If it’s not worth fighting then it’s perfectly fine to give in. You are not a loser! You are not weak! You …

5 TOP TIPS ON A TUESDAY

by Jen

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March 4, 2022

DOES EVERYTHING HAVE TO BE JUSTIFIED? #5TTT

Hi all,

Why. Why have you made that choice? Why should you make that choice? The word why shrouds our day, every single moment.

Our brains help us to make the correct choices, those instant decisions like ‘don’t cross the road right now, there are cars coming’. It has already downloaded and rationalised the ‘why’, we don’t question it, we don’t think about it.

The world as a whole is a collection of justifications. Everyone needs a reason to do everything. But do we? Should our personal lives, our distinct choices have to be completely justified?

DOES EVERYTHING HAVE TO BE JUSTIFIED

Does every choice we make in life have to be justified?

As always with my 5 top tips on a Tuesday, I have broken down this topic into different areas with various questions to ask yourself. Reflect on how you make your choices and have your own inner debate!

Lack of action

Are we simply frightened to take action? Does the need for a reason mean we don’t actually have to take a leap, try something new, make a different choice. Do we use justifications to stop us from even trying?

Validation of your ‘why’ by others

Right now the question of why will most likely come from someone else. Sometimes you don’t even need a why within yourself to make a choice, it just feels right. Then when you talk to someone else they ask you why, making you doubt/ justify why you made the choice in the first place. Because you want to (or don’t want to in some cases) is enough. Because you say so is enough. If you make a personal choice that only affects you then you need to let that be enough.

Stepping away from spontaneity

For me, why always stops me from being spontaneous. It makes me question every decision I make too much. I never question others or their choices, simply my own, in my head, that niggling voice that makes you go stop. Maybe next time I think ‘screw it, I will just make nachos for dinner’, I should listen to that instant gut choice – I don’t need a why.

When is your gut and head not enough?

Sometimes we need to work things out. Sometimes we need to know why. Sometimes we need to discuss this with others to prevent us from going mad. But have you worked out those areas in life where your head and gut decision is not enough? Where you need your justifications validated by others? It may be at work, it might be decisions regarding your children, but knowing where your boundaries are will help keep things clear.…