Month: October 2021

5 WORDS THAT GUIDE YOUR LIFE #5TTT

5 WORDS THAT GUIDE YOUR LIFE #5TTT

Hi all,

Over the past year or so I have really been drawn to reading and researching about who we are as individuals. How do we work? What makes us tick?

Not only has it lead to a greater understanding of how other people work but it has also allowed me to dive into who I am as a person. Sometimes it’s in the form of a collective, like my tendency (as per Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies) but often it has me exploring the minutia of my core. What’s in my gut driving me each day, helping me make the choices I do?

Recently, I asked myself the question ‘what are 5 words that guide your life’?

By guide, I mean words that take you by the hand and help you make the choices you do, because they describe who you are. Initially I came out with 5 words that I thought I ‘should’ write. Those things that describe who I feel we should be. But then I looked deep into my core. Those answers were very different.

For this weeks 5 top tips I bring you the 5 words that guide my life. Most importantly though, I want you to think about what 5 words guide your life. What words have deep roots in your core, shaping you in and out each day?

Kindness

I know from a young age I was brought up to value the importance of kindness. Kindness to others in particular but more recently I have truly appreciated the importance of being kind to myself. My thoughts, feelings and emotions find it easy to pull me apart, to pick upon a perceived flaw and attack it. I know kindness is in my core because I couldn’t fathom doing this to anyone else. I just need to work on applying it to myself.

Hygge

You all know my pull towards the concept of hygge (check out my post on hygge for more information). I thrive when I am content, happy, cosy, in my own wee nook… however you want to describe hygge. I know that feeling, I adore that feeling, I crave that feeling. It just makes so much sense to me. I feel it’s importance in my life and I strive to have access to it always.

Generous

Similar to kindness for sure but for me being generous is the art of giving… and allowing yourself to feel good about how that makes you feel. We all have so much to give whether that be money, time, gifts, donations of clothing or even lending an ear to a friend. Being generous makes me feel good …

WHY I WILL NEVER TELL YOU TO HUSTLE #5TTT

WHY I WILL NEVER TELL YOU TO HUSTLE #5TTT

Hi all,

How many times have you heard the word ‘hustle’ recently? Because I keep hearing it more and more.

‘Create your own side hustle’

‘In order to achieve all you need to do is put in the work and hustle’

‘Winners hustle’

Just some of the examples I am hearing on a daily basis when it comes to this word.

I must admit I never really saw it as a positive term – using it only when I wanted to explain someone or something that was pushy, frantic, rapid. So why do we now use the word as a way to describe someone who works hard? Who puts in the grunt work? Who goes above and beyond what they need to?

I for one will never tell you to hustle. For this weeks 5 top tips on a Tuesday I will explain to you why.

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Sometimes your life is enough

‘You could be more if you just were to hustle’, ‘Be a stay at home mum with a successful business on the side, if you hustle’. Well sometimes my life and your life is enough the way it is thank you very much. Life should be easy and fun. Yes we all have to work hard to achieve our dreams and some people could do with a little nudge but as a whole one word should not dictate how we live our lives. It’s ok for our life to be enough. We may not have all the money we want, the house we want, our own perfect side business or the exact career we want but if it makes you happy then it’s enough. No hustle needed.

Sometimes you need time

Hustle = rapid and fast paced. Well sometimes we all need a bit of time. Time to grow, time to learn, time to gain experience, time to think so we don’t make mistakes. Sometimes we aren’t cut out to hustle. Sometimes we want to take our time. I am not going to force you to go faster than you want to. We cannot blend together the term hard work and hustle. Hard work is what we need to achieve our dreams. ‘The Hustle’ is the next step. The extreme if you will.

Taking away the fun from your hobbies, interests and passions

I have listened to many podcasts over the past few weeks that have looked at the subject of turning your hobbies and interests into side hustles. But why? Yes if you want to, yes if it will bring you joy or you want to test the waters to see if it could bring you a …

WHAT HAS SOCIAL MEDIA DONE TO YOU? #5TTT

WHAT HAS SOCIAL MEDIA DONE TO YOU? #5TTT

Hi all,

Remember back in the day when the internet started being something we could have in our homes? If you were lucky, you had a massive ‘piece of equipment’ PC and you spent your evenings talking to friends on MSN messenger about the same things you had also spent the past 8 hours of school talking about.

Fast forward a few years and I was off to university. At this point Facebook was only available to people attending select universities, and it never really fussed me. Until a few years in and my university was accepted. Of course we signed up! This looked so cool! Still, it was only something you looked at when and if you were connected to the internet… and even then it was about posting when you were having a party… and revealing said pictures from party!

Fast forward 13 years and social media has just exploded. Everyone has constant access to the internet. Everyone is on Facebook, your mum, your auntie, all of your friends. And then there is Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and so on and so forth. Has the way we communicate as a society really changed so much in the space of 13 years? I don’t think anyone could argue that the answer to that has to be ‘yes’.

What has social media done to you?

For this weeks 5 top tips, I dug deep to look at the relationship I have with social media and what it has done to me. What does social media reveal about the world around me? What has it brought to my attention? These are my thoughts. Maybe you agree, maybe you don’t, maybe social media means something very different to you. Let me know below what you think.

Connection

Social media will always be worth it’s weight in gold to me, simply because of connection. Being on the other side of the world from my family and friends has been tough but social media allows me to be a part of life over there still. It allows me to keep connected with my old communities and friends. I cannot imagine how hard it would be to have to disconnect from all these important people and places – thankfully I don’t have to.

Desire

Social media has enabled me to desire more than I ever could have dreamed of. Maybe for you this desire is a good thing, you see something you want and you figure out a way to get it. It pushes you, it drives you, you can see an end. For me, desire can lead to pressure, confusion and often unhappiness. Most of …